Fight. Laugh. Love {A love story}

Recently my Hubbs has noticed that friends of ours have subway art or wall art in their homes that say "Live. Laugh. Love".  Every birthday party or dinner at a friends house he comments on them.  So, while at the BF baby's 2nd birthday, the Hubbs said, "look they have one too".  To which I said, yeah ok, so what.  The Hubbs said we needed one.  And I laughed and said, yeah, but ours wouldn't say that.  The BF said, yours would say, "Fight. Laugh. Love".  Then we all laughed, because it's the truth.

You know that scene in "Life as we Know it"?  Katherine Heigel is out to dinner with Hotty Hot Dr. and she's having a fight on the phone, with hotter than life Josh Dumel?  Well the doctor says, if him and his wife fought like that they would still be married?  That's my marriage.  We fight.  Sometimes playfully, sometimes not so playfully.  But we do fight.  I'm not afraid to admit it.  If you know me in real life it's nothing new.  What's new is we have learned to fight effectively.  We don't linger with hard feelings.  We have a "row", and let it go.  Ok, not always, and yes some things linger, but we always find our way back.  Finding our way back and being better for it.

Some call it passionate, some call it crazy, I call it love.  We really do love eachother.
That's where the laugh comes in.  I can't keep a straight face with this guy around.  He is the expert at the conversational joke.  In other words, you never know when the conversation is going to turn into a punchline.  He's silly, which he most likely would not like me to say, but he is.  He will do prat falls, physical comedy, just to make me laugh, or get me out of a funk.  He will deliberately walk by and say funny things as I'm trying to blog, which is annoying as all get out, but secretly I'd be worried if he didn't.

Last Monday was our 7th Anniversary.  How did we celebrate?  Like parents at Kindergarten orientation.  And there were jokes!  Lots of them.  How can you not make a joke about a YouTube video for kids called "Dr. Harry"?  Seriously?  Are you sure we should look up "Dr. Harry""?  We might not get the kids video if you know what I mean!  We giggled to ourselves.  A lot.  Until, Caitlin, who came with us said, "shh.  You are supposed to be listening!".  Yeah, we are those parents. 

Saturday, the Hubbs and I ran away from home.  Just for a few hours, but we were totally blank on what to do.  So we went to a restaurant bar, watched the end of the Giant's game, people watched, and laughed.  For almost 3 hours.  We talked too.  About the kids.  About home improvements.  About going next door to the surf shop and buying more Toms (we didn't).  And that's how we celebrated 7 years of marriage.  Simple.  Easy.  Laughing.

So this is how we love.  With punch lines, prat falls, and arguments about the garbage cans, or the dirty carpet.  The fighting that leads to laughs, that confirms the love.  It's hard not to love someone who can keep you on your toes.  Or keeps a smile on your face.  That can make you so mad your face turns red one minute, and is making you laugh uncontrollably the next.

It's been a long road for us.  I won't bore you with details.  I will only say that we knew early on, that we wanted eachother for the long haul.  But we were scared.  We weren't ready.  So we went back and forth, loving and hating.  It was a rollercoaster ride, and we both hate rollercoasters. 

It's been seven years of married life, in addition to the five we dated.  As much as we hate rollercoasters, neither one of us will get off this ride.

Fight. Laugh. Love.
It's what we know.  It's what we do.  With every twist and turn, we're enjoying the ride.

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  1. I just loved this post.
    So well written and real.
    My hub and I fight and laugh all in the span of two or three minutes.. it's one of the things I love so much about him.

  2. I love this post. I really do. Prince Willy and I argue in a good way too (and in a few wrong ways as well) but we always come out on top laughing and just being best friends. We are 10 1/2 years in with 4 beautiful children. Neither one of us is getting off our rollercoaster either. Happy anniversary.

  3. What an awesome -- honest post! I loved it! :)


  4. Thank you for sharing! There's nothing better than laughing with your husband and I how you guys have learned to fight effectively. We're still working on that but, I really believe we're going to get there!

  5. So honest!! Love it!! This is Ryan and I. We bicker daily - I wouldn't have it any other way.

  6. Great post (as usual)...I think our art would say, "Push. Buttons. Always."
    :) It's how we roll...

  7. I love your honest heart... Thanks for sharing!

  8. I love this! My hubby and I definitely fight too. Some would say too much but you know what we are both crazy passionate hot headed people but somehow we make it work. Almost ten years of being together and five of them married!

  9. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY<3 Wish you guys a great life and happiness. Love your post it's really sweet<3
    I really like your blog - would you like to follow each other?

  10. Aww this is so sweet!!!! Congratulations on 7 years!

  11. My boo and I fight too but we fight effectively. Congrats to so many years!

  12. I absolutely love this! Thank you for being real, and congratulations on 7 years! Plenty more to come I'm sure!

  13. I understand where you're coming from! Thanks for being so open and sharing. :)

  14. You guys sound like us! I totally get it! We dated for five+ years before getting married too! July is our one year anniversary. I say 5+ because that's just the date we use... We had one of those off and on relationships for like the first two years or so. We've had some whopper fights too... where we were mad at each other for days, but those don't happen much anymore. We've learned how to fight fair I guess... ;)

  15. You described perfectly the relationship that my husband and I have. We love it this way. Fighting=Passion!
    Ashley Richards