All that glitters is four

If you have a four year old daughter, God bless you.  No really.  You must understand better than most the current "4 going on 14" stage.  Where if it doesn't sparkle or make her look like Ariel then it doesn't go on the body.  This phase that everything is up for discussion or debate.  Where every morning is a fashion show that ends like the season finale of Project Runway, with me victorious, and my girl in tears.

It's the sass, the attitude, all the backtalk.  It's like an endless episode of toddlers and tiaras. 
Rocking it!
And today like most days, I ran out of patience.  I yelled.  I threatened to throw out all of the clothes she refuses to wear.  I could not handle one more debate on purple gingham vs. red velvet.  I could not argue over why red glitter shoes could not be worn with the purple velour track suit.  Meltdown after meltdown about side ponies vs. half ponies vs. pigtails.

I can't debate like a high powered attorney at 7 am.  I just can't.

Then the sass.  That mouth she has on her.  It's like looking in a mirror.  I'm all sass and sarcasm, and she got that gene.  I back talk the Hubbs all the time, so why wouldn't she.  She is following my example.  I have no one to blame, but myself.  Seriously?  I'm the mom, right?  I should be able to do as I do, right?  Well not exactly.

This is her first day of school outfit.
She picked it out.
So today, I think we are even stevens.  I love her.  Like more than life.  It's just challenging some days.  Like today.  I try to be encouraging.  I try to talk it out.  But I can only handle one or two meltdowns about hair and accessories before I snap.  Is this how my mother felt?

My mom reminds me that I was exactly the same.  I wanted to dress myself.  I had the details down to a T.  Is it any wonder, my mini me demands the same.  A good friend reminded me that this is what we all want as moms.  A child that can express themselves.  Can have and form an opinion.  A child that has an imagination that runs wild.  So I try.  I try to encourage all the great outfits, and let me tell you some of them are killer.

She got this for Christmas.
Look at the fingerless gloves.
She loves this!
She want to wear this to Target.
Some days are a battle around here.  A fashion/attitude war zone played out against a Disney Princess background.  Some days the wounds are worse.  Some days we call a truce.

So we will start over tomorrow.

But today.  Deep breath in... Breathe.

I even asked her today, "Did I pick up the right kid from school?".

Well hows that for an example in sassy sarcasm?

Happy Blogging,
Megan

14 comments:

  1. Too cute. I love it. I told you, I want her to dress me.

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    1. Are you sure? She will put you in animal print. Lmao

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  2. Oh I can't wait. My daughters 3 right now and already getting pretty sassy.

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    1. There is something about four that is amazingly lovely and as painful as a root canal at the same time. Good luck.

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  3. Oh man sometimes I don't know what I would do if I had a girl! The other day my little man wanted to wear socks with his sandals like an 80 year old man and his Darth Vader costume to the gym! After 20 mins of arguing with him I finally just gave in. I'm learning to pick my battles.

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    1. Picking battles is key. There are some days that we wear the latest creation to Target and the grocery store. But I gotta draw the line for school. It's like mean girls 2.0 over there. No not the kids... The moms. Love love the socks with sandals! Hilarious!

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  4. she's so cute. my niece is the same way. i want a girl, but it sorta scares me!

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  5. is yhis why im grateful for boys? she sure is beautiful!

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    1. Thank you. She really is a doll. Kids are sometimes a reflection of yourself, and sometimes it's flawed.

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  6. oh, i can SO relate! i was just talking to a co-worker today about how the traits that will make our children amazing adults are also the same ones that make parenting so challenging most days. as for outfits, well... as long as they're weather appropriate, i let my girls look as silly as they want.

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    1. I try really hard to do that too, but I have this thing about "matching". As long as the colors are complimentary. It's my own crazy OCD not hers.

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  7. This sounds just like Colette and me. I'm trying so hard to let her be her own little fashionable self, as long as she's warm enough. But sometimes I just want things to match, or not be a costume. I know this stage won't last too long, then we'll have great blackmail pictures.

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  8. something tell me i'm on my way down that road with my little toddler!!!

    She LOVES my Eos chapstick, and she SCREAMS to be allowed to put some on....so I made the mistake of doing it once, because not only does she remember to apply it everyday, she goes through each "flavor" The passion fruit and the lemon.....the best part is once she has it on, she purses her lips ever so delicately, raises her eyebrows and become this little dainty thing....its hilarious really.

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  9. first time reader - got to you from the blogher sidebar. hilarious. i have one boy and three girls - youngest is three. none of the girls are remotely into clothing - which can also result in some painful outfits and dramatic debates. ;o)

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